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Some clubs you join. Others drag you in kicking and screaming.

I first experienced this when my brother died – suddenly we were forced into a club we wanted no part of. We sure didn’t ask to join. But there it was. A whole community of people who came to visit… people who had also lost children, brothers, uncles, grandchildren and they all seemed to find comfort in sharing their story with us. Thank God for them.




And so it’s been the same with my Dad’s cancer. There are people in the grocery store wanting to tell me how their friend, cousin, daughter, husband beat cancer. Or that they didn’t beat cancer and what they learned from the experience.

The oncologist’s office is a tight-knit club.  




Everyone knows that the person sitting beside them in the waiting room sure ain’t there because of the flu.




There is a Treatment Room and to be honest – it startled me at first. A room full of people hooked up to machines – it looked to me (of ALL things) like a dairy. But there’s comfort in that room. Those people are a team. They talk about how long they’ve been coming to the office and what they have and how they’re treating it. That room lets people know they are not alone in some stark white exam room waiting for a doctor to come in – they’re with others battling in the same trenches. They are in this together.

Some clubs you don’t ask to join but you sure are glad they are there.

April 14, 2009 - 7:04 am

Caution - This is marvelous writing. Still praying for your dad.

April 14, 2009 - 7:30 am

Kelly - A very touching post. We know that club – and while you don’t ask to be a part of it, you’re thankful that it’s there.

April 14, 2009 - 7:44 am

carrie - I know! When my mom was going through chemo 5 years ago! The nurses that worked in there not only treated her, they treated us too. My family formed a bond with them and we all cried the last chemo treatment mom had. They chased my step-dad around with squirt guns and hugged both April and I repeatedly. They were the best. It was good to know those nurses really cared about my mom.

April 14, 2009 - 8:10 am

Fencepost - I know the clubs well.
While the reason for them is sad, it is also a blessing.
Still praying for your family.

April 14, 2009 - 8:56 am

Rose Atkins Stalnaker - What beautiful images you draw out of such an ugly black hole that no one wants to fall into. You are helping me and so many others get through trials with your words and pictures. I know about the “C” family. We have walked the path with Mama’s cancer and chemo for the last 2 years and I have learned a new meaning of hope and just how intense it has to be to survive. She was given 5 mos. and is still here with us…God is the Great Decision Maker. Thank you for the inspiration you bring to me.

April 14, 2009 - 9:07 am

Karen - Your post really touched me today. Pictures and words.

April 14, 2009 - 9:21 am

Christy - ok, you gave me goose bumps today. You take such BEAUTIFUL pictures….

April 14, 2009 - 6:27 pm

kat - I have found that God allows me to use my experience to help those going through the same thing. You cannot sympathize unless you have been there. There is a unique understanding when you have walked the same path.

April 15, 2009 - 6:28 am

Tammy - You have a gift for observing what is real, from the heart and what truly matters in this painful journey. Our prayers are with your family.

April 15, 2009 - 11:00 am

Tammy - Too many of us know of these clubs, whether from the trials within our families or walking the path with our friends. Thank goodness, though, that such clubs exist. Imagine trying to find your way without the experience of others to shed some light. Thinking good thoughts for your dad and your family …

April 16, 2009 - 8:27 am

Chelsea - :-) beautiful post, beautiful pictures. :-) hugs and prayers your way.

April 16, 2009 - 11:26 am

Kath - At Mayo Clinic this week we experienced “the club” once again. Wish we didnt know it even existed but thankful its there.

Hope all is going good for your dad and family. :)

April 16, 2009 - 11:30 am

the Cotton Wife - This has been a good week, Kath. And I hope yours has been too!

April 21, 2009 - 12:07 pm

StephanieSays - A very touching post. All my best for you and your family in this time.

The first two pictures are wonderful. I’ll come back soon so I can see them again…


April 26, 2009 - 12:35 pm

MOM - I cried when I read this and saw the beautiful pictures. Thank you.

Love you much!


Yes, They ARE All The Same


It doesn’t matter if they’re gobblers, bucks, bulls, boars, tomcats, roosters… or 5 year old boys.

April 10, 2009 - 12:50 pm

Carrie T - Too cute!

April 10, 2009 - 2:27 pm

Tammy - Except this little guy seems to be more succesful at actually attracting the females! He could teach those tom turkeys a thing or two.

Take a look at the goofy little bird at my house:

April 10, 2009 - 5:39 pm

kat - AMEN!! I have 3 – 48, 20 and 15 and they may look different but they are MALE!! (Of course I wouldn’t trade ‘em for anything).

April 10, 2009 - 7:07 pm

Jamie - LOL! I love it!!!

April 12, 2009 - 7:14 am

Christy - This one is a little cuter than the turkeys though!!!

April 12, 2009 - 9:59 am

Karen - OK….that is so true and so cute!

April 13, 2009 - 7:36 am

Caution - The power of testosterone!

April 14, 2009 - 7:38 am

Klutzy Mama - That’s too stinkin’ cute! Love it!


Males Showing Off





Get ‘em around one another and all they do is compete to catch a gal’s attention.



“Wait! Come back!!”



Looks like the girls got wise.

April 8, 2009 - 1:28 pm

Fencepost - Great shots, Jennifer!
How come your turkeys are prettier than mine?
Must have something to do with the mountains…

April 8, 2009 - 8:43 pm

Tammy - I love that you got great shots of the males. I try all the time, but never manage to do it. I do have the funniest audio, though, of me gobbling to them, and then them gobbling back to me. It’s hysterical. I guess I should dig it up and put it on my blog, just for grins. At the end my daughter says, “Good night, turkeys!” and they give one last gobble – too funny!

Hey – you might get a kick out of the mischief my 83-year-old mother got into today (sigh):

April 8, 2009 - 9:07 pm

Carin - fun shots you got with those! Now that we moved we have turkeys here, hope the boys get to see some soon.

April 8, 2009 - 9:19 pm

Kath - Hilarious. :)

April 10, 2009 - 7:29 am

Caution - It really is the same across the species, isn’t it?

April 12, 2009 - 10:00 am

Karen - Sooner are later, all girls get wise.